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A-intoxicant? A-alcohol? A-drinking?

We need a word similar to “asexual” to mean “not interested in alcohol.” Every time I say “just water for me, thanks” while others are ordering alcoholic drinks, I feel the need to explain. I feel like people either think I’m avoiding alcohol because I have an addiction to or similar problem with it (I don’t), or because I’m morally opposed to it and am thus quietly judging them (I’m not). It’s just that alcohol does not do anything fun for me, the way it CLEARLY does for most people. All it does is make me tired, and a bit ill. Not any particular fun at all. So I’ll occasionally sip a drink just for the nice taste of it (assuming it’s the sort that actually tastes nice), but I don’t *drink* drink. Just not that into it.

So, yeah, it’d be nice to have a single word to describe that, so I could say, “I’m a-intoxicant” (or whatever) in explanation instead of having to give the entire above paragraph every time.

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archaeologist_d
Oct. 9th, 2017 11:16 pm (UTC)
I have no idea what word could be used but I also don't like alcohol. Don't like the taste or the way it makes me shudder in distaste when I rarely drink it.
mollyringle
Oct. 11th, 2017 04:30 am (UTC)
That would make it easier to avoid if you don't even like the taste! Though hard to make others understand, still, yeah.
blue_23
Oct. 12th, 2017 09:21 pm (UTC)
I have the same problem - and there also some social stigmata in some group to not drinking alcohol when everyone else is. I'm male, I wonder if it differs.

I used to use the word teetotaler, but that got into the perceived judg-y category you mentioned. A social dodge I've used in the past: "I'm not much of a beer|wine|whatever drinker" which implies that "I am an alcohol consumer just like you, but this just isn't my drink" which seems socially acceptable. Too bad it's not truthful as well.

Now that I'm older, I have less f...cares to give about it. I just order my water and drink confidently, and that seems to be acceptable. Not sure if it's water vs. a more "childish" drink, but not feeling self conscious about it maybe helps not call attention to it in the first place.
mollyringle
Oct. 14th, 2017 04:33 pm (UTC)
Agreed--I actually don't care as much as I get older, plus people don't seem to push it on me as much. I think when we're younger we get the badger-y friends more. ("Oh, but try THIS drink!") Luckily we all grow up and get past that. :D No need for excuses at all in most cases, probably.
(Anonymous)
Oct. 13th, 2017 08:21 pm (UTC)
Labels Aren't Necessary!
I don't think there's any need to explain anything or have a word, is there? I really don't think that anyone pays much thought to what you're drinking or not drinking. I don't believe they care all that much -- but I could be wrong. There are people who love running or chocolate or knitting, but we don't have words for those who don't do them? These are just things they choose not to partake in. I can't imagine that anyone judges anyone else because they don't do something. I know that alcohol can be ubiquitous but so are chocolate desserts, and I know a few people who don't like chocolate and will go without if there's no other desserts available.

I personally love alcohol. I love the taste of most kinds, I like attending beer and wine festivals to see what's new and interesting and I like discerning the difference between the ones I try and learning about how they're made. I like the geography, history, the culture and the romantic aspects of it. I also really like yoga. For much the same reasons as I like alcohol: how it feels, the history, the culture, the different kinds, etc. I also really dislike crafting. I don't have the patience and I get no pleasure from it. However, I think if someone assigned me a label for either the doing or not doing of these activities, I'd be right pissed.

I think when someone offers you a drink, they're not pushing alcohol, they're just asking if you want something to sip on. It could be a strawberry milkshake or scotch and soda. Either one is fine with your host, they're just trying to be polite. (well, unless they don't have the ingredients, then that could cause a problem).

And if someone does give you a hard time, tell them to go back to high school.
mollyringle
Oct. 14th, 2017 04:34 pm (UTC)
Re: Labels Aren't Necessary!
True--except on my more insecure days, I don't think I really feel the need to explain, and most people don't really care either. And since asking around about this, I've found there are a lot more of us than I suspected who have similar "meh" feelings about drinking, so it's not even as unusual as I originally thought. :)
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